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By the numbers
53%
of adults ages 18 to 29 have ever used a dating site or app.
Pew Research Center, 2023. 6,034 U.S. adults, July 2022.
67%
of Gen Z singles have used AI in their dating lives.
Kinsey Institute and Match, Singles in America, 2026. About 5,000 U.S. singles.
78%
of recent dating app users have felt burned out by the apps at least sometimes.
Forbes Health and OnePoll, 2024. 1,000 U.S. adults who used a dating app in the past year.
1 in 3
unmarried adults ages 22 to 35 are actively dating.
Wheatley Institute and Institute for Family Studies, 2026. 5,275 unmarried U.S. adults ages 22 to 35.
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NPR (Life Kit), 2020
The art of breaking up, from 'the talk' to moving on (opens npr.org)Practical guidance on ending things kindly and on what helps in the weeks after.
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